Honesty to Remove Monogamy | Relationships | Forum
July 12, 2012
So I’ve really been getting into this direct shit, not just with girls, but with mates, work, and just life in general. Didn’t realise until about 2 months ago that I wasn’t even being direct with MYSELF. Fucked up! But yeah, after going to Sasha’s London talk on July 21st, and spending some time with Paul Harley about inner game, it’s really opened my eyes in a way I never thought possible. It seems to me its not really a way to pick up girls anymore, it’s a lifestyle. Meeting shit loads of girls is just an awesome bonus! ;)
So I was on a first date yesturday. She assumes (and this happens quite a lot now) that because I seem so confident and direct, I seem like a player and fuck girls around. Old indirect me, would immediately go on the defensive and deny it, and say I wasn’t seeing anyone (which to be honest I never was, I was always only ever seeing one girl at once. If I was lucky!). But now, I say fuck it, im going to be honest. I said this exact thing to her:
“I get this a lot. But I am not a player, I don’t screw girls over. I don’t fuck girls and never talk to them again. The way I see it, I meet a girl and she attracts me, that’s one thing. But if she makes me laugh, if she challenges me, if she intrigues me, and most importantly if we have FUN, then I will see her again. I don’t really agree with monogamous relationships because I hate the idea of being forced to enjoy just one person’s company. If I’m having fun with someone I will see them again. If not, I won’t. Simple as that. I don’t think we need to put labels to anything. And I find that women who demands relationships are normally very needy, and insecure people, and I don’t need that in my life. Why, would you say you were a needy, insecure person?!”
Not a woman alive will answer yes to that question. And in saying ‘no I’m not’ she has practicaly agreed to everything you’ve I’ve said.
Her actualy reply was "No I'm not, but some women like the comfort of having a solid relationship" to which I reply "So are you one of them?" she replies no. It's on!
I should mention that I also used this 'speech' to the other girl I am seeing, so she knows where we are at as well, and both SEEM pretty comfortable with it….
This girl KNOWS I am seeing someone else. But it has become so that she feels like she is COMPETING to become the more fun girl. I love how tides turn!
July 11, 2012
August 13, 2012
hmm, interesting post. i, too, was having a similar conversation about this type of topic with a girl last night (my september 15 post my thread"daygame experiences and your daygame schedule". what do u guys think about girls with boyfriends, but you have a feeling that she may be open to being with you, but you're not sure (espeically if the girl has been with the guy for 2 years)? what are methods of changing her ideas or if there is a thread on this topic, link it.
July 12, 2012
I am sort of a bit hypocrytical when it comes to girls with boyfriends. I say I dont bother. Its too much hassle. Its wrong morally. If a girl seems happy then I would never want to ruin that for them. There are billions of girls out there, why focus on one thats already taken? Monogamous relationships arent really for me at the moment, but I dont want to ruin it for those that want one.
But the truth is, if i am talking to a girl who is clearly unhappy and comes on to me, I dont stop it happening. I'm not the cheater, and if this is the catalyst that makes her realise she is happier off without her boyfriend, then so be it!
Bottom line is, If you want to know how she feels about her situation, ask her. No simpler or more effective way of doing it!
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